When we counsel prospective clients we notice a common trend that many people jump to the end of a situation much too quickly. What this means is, we go from a client deciding he or she has to move out or separate and then within ten seconds he/she is thinking about how their children will feel at their high school graduation if their parents aren't sitting with one another.
It is the most normal thing in the world to think these thoughts, but the problem is, they get in the way of making change today.
While in law school, I was a personal trainer, and the same mentality existed. It's easier not to start because of how sore you will be during the process, than it is to start and see how sore you are.
If you are unhappy or worse, unsafe, in your current situation, please take things one step at a time. Do not jump to the end and/or try to analyze every bit of soreness you will have along the way. It's not going to be perfect. You are going to be "sore" but you are growing stronger through the process. If your significant other is not building you up, making you stronger, and challenging you every day, you are likely being broken down.
The time in life when we meet clients is really a powerful time. It's a rejuvenation and an opportunity for positive change which will affect generations to come. We don't take that lightly and neither should you. Embrace the change and all the soreness that comes with it and your strength will shine through at the end.